PARENT CONNECT - FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
MY CHILD IS BEING BULLIED, HOW CAN I HELP?
- Report all incidents of bullying to school officials.
- Talk to your child about ways to ask for help when bullying occurs.
- Teach your child not to be a bystander or follower. Tell your child not to encourage, cheer on, or watch a conflict that encourages a bully or makes the bully the center of attention.
- Explain the difference between telling an adult when someone is in emotional or physical danger and tattling. School staff, parents, and law officials depend on students alerting them.
- Most children will not tell they are being bullied because they fear reprisals. It is important that you recognize the symptoms. These include: reluctance to go to school, sleep disturbances, physical complaints like headaches and stomachaches, belongings that are missing, and coming home upset or injured.
- Advocate for your child by working with school officials and teachers to combat bullying.
- Talk with and listen to your child every day.
- Be a good example of kindness and leadership. Children learn a lot by watching how you handle relationships and situations.
- Help develop anti-bullying and anti-victimization habits early. Teach your child what not to do (hitting, pushing, teasing, or being mean to others). More importantly, teach your child what to do. Kindness, empathy, fair play, and respect are critical skills for good peer relationships.
- If you suspect your child is a bully, tell your child bullying is wrong and make it clear that you will not tolerate bullying of any sort.
- Set up rules and consequences for bullying behaviors, and be sure to consistently enforce them. Also, reward your child when he/she engages in appropriate behaviors.
MY CHILD IS A BULLY, WHAT SHOULD I DO?
- Have your child to tell you, in their own words, what role they played in reported incidents of bullying was. Children should be accountable for their behavior. If your child tries to blame another participant, be firm and reiterate that you are only interested in your child’s role in the bullying.
- Help your child to develop empathy with the student who was bullied. Experts report that the earlier students develop empathy, the better chance they have of not becoming a bully.
- Have your child make amends for the situation. This may mean apologizing to the alleged child who was bullied.
- Look for the root cause of the bullying and for ways to handle the situation differently. Most students who bully are most likely seeking acknowledgment or attention or control.
- Contact the school. Report your students’ bullying behavior and solicit help.
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Students Who Bully:
- How to be a Plugged in Parent from Care.com - Tips to make sure your child does not become a bully or a victim of bullying.
- School Bullying from Education.com - From kindergarten readiness through college prep, Education.com gives parents resources for school bullying.
- Bullying from Pacer.org - A resource on bullying from the National Bullying Prevention Center with up to date news tips, videos, and definitions on bullying.
- Creating Cultures of Dignity from Rosalind Wiseman - Internationally recognized expert on children, teens, parenting, bullying, social justice and ethical leadership - website offers videos, articles and tips for dealing with and recognizing bullying.
- Parents' Guide from StopBullying.gov - This federal government website provides information and resources for parents on bullying and cyberbullying.
- Tween Parenting and Social Development from About.com - A guide to learning the signs of bullying behavior in tween years.
- My Child is a Bully: What Should I Do? - Child Mind Institute explores why kids bully and what to do if you discover that your child is ... Here are some tips.
- My Child is the Bully: Tips for Parents - Tips for parents of students who bully.
Anti-Bullying and Safe Schools Hotline
email: firstname.lastname@example.orgBullying, harassment, or intimidation are serious and will not be tolerated. Allegations of bullying, harassment, or intimidation that occurred on school property; at a school-sponsored activity or event off school property; on a school bus; or on the way to and/or from school should be reported. If you are a student, parent/guardian of a student who has been bullied or staff member, please report any allegations of the above and feel free to contact the school for additional information or assistance at any time.